It’s funny how you can have it all mapped out in your head about what type of guy you would like to be with….his looks and how he would treat you. You may even come across someone who ticks all the boxes, the looks you like, things in common but still it’s not quite right.

Just know that the guy you end up with may not even be who you thought!! 

But there is another factor some women can expect their perfect guy to just pop up and have all these things to offer but what are they bringing to the picnic?

Now I am not saying that this is applies to all women but it definitely to quite a few out there.

Now lets not try to go all materialistic but you want him to have a hopes, dreams, ambition, job/career, drive, own place, take you out, make you laugh, comfort you, make you scream his name, understand you, not make you angry, don’t leave his socks on the floor, cook you breakfast in bed and put the toilet seat down.

Yes the list could go on but you see it started to sounds a bit much?

What you need to ask is what can you do for him? can you cook him breakfast , can you comfort him and can you make him scream your name. Basically if you are expecting a man to have the whole shebang make sure that you have things to offer also, don’t just think that you deserve them it is not a one way street.

My theory is to just do your thing, focus on yourself and being your best self, this means your open for the right guy to find you when the time is right!!

But some ladies please put away your spade and shovel you are not digging for gold!!!

I am not saying for you to not look but don’t try to pre plan that man you will find. If you keep searching for this made up man you have created in your head you will probably always be disappointed. I am also not saying  that it is not possible to find your perfect man I am just saying that your approach may be stopping the process.You don’t even need to let go of your morals because I believe the person your with needs to be on the same page as you. But don’t expect them to smell of roses all the time if you smell like cow doo doo! 

 As women we all have our check lists and probably even men, but to actually be happy and find someone special we need to put the focus elsewhere. Have you ever found something that you wasn’t even looking for?

That doesn’t mean settle for what comes your way, it simply means not to think things will be predictable and to know what you will get.

The truth is the man you put together on paper may not even be who you end up with, and those requirements may not even be right for you in the end.

My advice is to not look like you lost something, but put yourself out there, do your thing and make sure that you are being the best you can be before you expect a perfect man to come your way!

Search for the perfect YOU!!

xLBx